In continuing the discussion of masculine and feminine energy, you might wonder how to find balance. Honestly I’m careful about how I use the word balance. I feel it’s misused in describing a measurement of happiness, or life. As life is never in constant balance. It’s a continuous flowing movement forward in time, where we have to keep in constant awareness about our needs, in order to function in the most optimum and agile way. Due to this constant evolution of life, I don’t believe that it can be balanced. Life doesn’t work like that. Stuff happens all the time, and you get knocked off course sometimes. You may forget things, get tired, or emotional. You might misread situations; or unintentionally hurt people. And for those moments when you feel in balance within yourself, something externally might require some of your resources, removing some of your buffer. I prefer describing this journey of life as a search for harmony, and accepting that sometimes life gets messy.
When our masculine side is not guided and inspired by our feminine, it goes down roads it probably shouldn’t go down. If we take evidence from our political, economic, educational, health care, elderly care, and even spiritual, areas of life in today’s society. We can grasp this concept on a larger scale as well. We live in a patriarchal world, and it’s brought us huge innovations. Especially in the last century, where science and technology has moved us, at unexpected speeds, to places we never thought possible. From significantly extending the average human life span, to artificial intelligence, to the convenience of having our clothes made for us, to globe-trotting, to 3D printing organs…etc. The advancements are incredible. It’s brought us a wealth of information and solutions for anything you could ever imagine. But it’s come at a cost. We’ve been fast forwarded into a non-stop information hungry, overly notified, stressed out, burnt out, ADD/ADHD, economically challenged, confused, overwhelmed, struggling to keep up with it all, insecure, judgemental, still at war for reasons that are redundant, as they’ve been solved with the same science that brought us all this knowledge and wealth in the first place,…. society. Don’t get me wrong, like I said, we’ve accomplished amazing and incredible things. But in the past few hundred years, we’ve increasingly allowed our thirst for power and knowledge, to throw us out of balance as a society as a whole. This linear, goal oriented, ambitious focus, is leaving the last few generations of people waking up and wondering what happened to their lives. They spent a lifetime running, doing everything they were told they should do, to be happy and content. Only to be left worn out and feeling a kind of void, like something was missing. I’ve experienced it in my life, heard it time and time again from people I’ve managed, family members, friends… You’ve probably heard it too.
In today’s world, it’s so important to have an understanding that we all have, and need, both our Male and Female energy, to craft a more abundant version of success. Although I do believe that the world is in transition, most of today’s life goals seem geared towards achievement and consumerism. Where we have to actively function within the rules of what is constructed, and accepted by society. We have to choose appropriate work for our surrounding; in general it’s considered a good thing to have a family; dress a certain way; behave a certain way; it’s better not to be single; most women currently living in the West are expected to work, as a two-income salary is a necessity these days. All men are expected to work; we are expected to work a certain amount each week, month, year to escape being called lazy. Women are still expected to have a husband, and children by a certain age. Having too many interests equates to scattered mindedness; it’s considered a waste of brains if we pursue more artistic or creative routes of life as there is no money to be made there, and the list goes on…
Exploration of our more female energy is considered OK when you’re young, and don’t know any better. Apparently, you’re allowed to be random and full of possibility when you’re young. Once you’ve grown up, whatever that actually means in the grand scale of things, and you’ve established something as an adult, then all of a sudden – Game over, you’ve made your bed, now sleep in it! It can feel as if it’s frowned upon to take a risk to switch things up, even if it means you’d be happier. The rules seem to translate to: once you’re old enough to jump on the boat, and join everyone else in this thing called life, rules pop up out of nowhere as to what and how you should be doing life. This is the tune playing in the background for all of us, men included. A patriarchal world, is no better for them, as it is for us. A matriarchal one wouldn’t be any better either in my opinion. Both need each other to keep everything in check. Progress with a little more enjoyment – sounds good, wouldn’t you say?
© Juel McNeilly
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